Wednesday, September 8, 2010

DSK Jewelry Giveaway!

I don't really know how to edit photos... so I use this one all the time because DSK herself added the cute font/edges/blurriness!  

Stephanie is doing a giveaway!

Easy Giveaway Rules:

1. Be a reader/follower of DSK Jewelry
http://www.dskjewelry.blogspot.com


2. Leave DSK a comment in response to her question for you,
What is your all time favorite movie?
Followed by a generous "I love DSKJewelry!" ^_^
(but only say it if you mean it!)

3. Be a reader/follower of my favorite weird friend forever Nonners (Whitney!) : )
http://www.mrscleanest.blogspot.com/
( ^shout out to ME!)

4. And leave a comment to my novel of questions for you at this blog:

  • What is the biggest flaw you find in your current friends/friendships? 
  • What do you think yours is? 
  • What do you think is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships? 
Feel free to post your responses here.  If you have already posted responses, no need to re-post.... I will hunt all responses down and read them!  Have fun with it!



42 comments:

starsana said...

RE: The biggest flaw that I find in my friends is that at time or should I say many times, they are very judgmental. If I wear or say something they do not agree with they bluntly tell me they disagree with me. However, my biggest flaw is that I keep things to myself, I have not confronted my friends (about their bluntness) about how their words really hurt at times.
Yet, the most important step in maintaining a lifelong friendships is enjoying and cherishing all the good times one spends with their friends. It's sometimes forgetting about all the bad thing and accepting that every friendship is going to have it's up's and downs is the best for a lifelong friendship. :)

BealeCheeks said...

The biggest flaw in my friends is that we take each other for granted. We assume that we'll always be around for each other and while that's probably true, no one can guarantee the future!
My biggest flaw is that I can be closed off at times.
The most important thing needed for maintaining a friendship is communication. Free communication is the key!

cynthia said...

The biggest flaw in my friend would have to be using me to get what she wants in life, my biggest flaw is keepin everything bottled up inside and not letting them know how i feel about the situation i know i dont love that about my friend but i love her and to love her like she was my sis means i love everything about her including her flaws.

Heather said...

Hey Whitney I hope your day is going well =) Flaws I see in most of my friends friendships would have to be trust. Even amongst my 3 roommates, there is always gossip about another and smack talk happening when they are gone. Well the flaw I find in my friendships is that I have this problem where I put importance more on some of my friends than the other ones. I notice it and try to do something about it but end up failing again. I think the most important thing is communication. If you want to keep that relationship strong and lasting then you always have to keep in touch and let each other know what’s up with you. It can be hard cause as humans we procrastinate and are lazy =P Well I hope you have a wonderful week and take careee!! :]

sesshoumaru10 said...

The biggest flaw I see in my friendships is that everyone is so wrapped up in their own little world that they don't see the bigger picture, they don't try harder to become a better friend, and instead are giving the impression that 'your' friendship with them isn't important.
My biggest flaw in my friendships would be that I don't find the time to make an effort of hitting up my friends (to like hang out...and what not). I feel like if one doesn't take the time to be a better friend, then I won't either. That's my flaw. :( I just need to suck it up & not think that way.
To be honest with one another. Don't hide secrets that can be harmful to the other person and always tell them when something is bothering them to prevent that 'something' from being bottled up inside!

doriee said...

Hello to you! Nice to meet you :) I like to clean too!

What is the biggest flaw you find in your current friends/friendships?
I think the biggest flaw I find in my current friends/friendships is that we tend to keep a lot of things from each other. Whether it be because we're mad at each other or we're annoyed with each other, we just don't say it. Most of the time, it's probably because we don't want to make the situation into anything more than what it is or we just don't want to hurt each others feelings. I do sometimes feel like we're very distant from each other because we don't really share what's on our minds or in our hearts. But of course, it's a personality problem...not all of us are very open with each other, with other people, or with our own families. It's not something we can change anytime soon and I accept that.

What do you think yours is?
I think my flaw is the same thing as many of my friends. I'm not very open with some of my close friends. There are topics that we talk about and then there are topics that we never approach. Whether it's because I don't want to get too close to them or they probably won't care. But in the end, all it matters to me is that we're all here for each other regardless of any type of problem. And even when we know there is a problem, we won't approach the topic unless the person wants to talk about it. I am very thankful and grateful to all my friends. I could call them at 3 AM in the morning, crying my eyes out, and they won't know what's going on but they'll be there. They'll be there to make me smile and laugh again.

doriee said...

Continued. Sorry >_< My answer to the last question was too long so I'm putting it here as a part 2. X_X

What do you think is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships?
I think the most important step is showing you care. As we grow up, we become busier and busier each day with our own family, our own jobs, or miscellaneous things that we cannot control. We may not have the time to see our friends every so often like we did when we were still in school or in college. And sometimes, it is hard with conflicts in our schedule. So once in a while, everyone should be able to take a day off sometime, somehow, just for lunch or dinner for conversation. It'll mean a lot and it'll show that you care if you can take a day off of work just for a girls day/night out because all my friends and I are workaholics haha. Or if it was someone's birthday and you absolutely cannot make it, you could send flowers or presents to them as an apology and to make up for your absence. Nowadays, we have facebook, we have myspace, we have twitter -- we could always just leave a message with our friends once in a while, just to see how they're doing.

My best friend was set to graduate during a weekend in May and I had really wanted to go. Unfortunately, I had some family stuff going on and I could not make it. Of course, my friend was disappointed even though she didn't voice it and I felt really bad. So on our next dinner out, before I met up with my group of friends, I went and bought some chocolates for my best friend. My best friend LOVES chocolate and LOVES sweets. I specifically went to Godiva to pick out something. And Godiva, at that time, was promoting their ice cream flavored chocolates. What's better than regular chocolate? ICE CREAM flavored chocolate. So I went and bought a gift package for her -- it had 3 of the ice cream flavors in 3 little ice cream looking tubs. It was my little apology to her for not being able to make it to her graduation. Needless to say, she loved it.

Then, I recently relocated and most of my friends are either 300 miles away or they're in another state. It is very hard to maintain friendships because it's almost like a test to see who will last and who wouldn't. But you know, my friends and I could go months without talking to each other and when we do get the chance to see/talk to each other, it'll be like we've never parted ways.

But to be honest, it takes two to tango. If a certain friend doesn't care for the friendship, no matter how much you hold onto it, it's not going to work.

kthxbye said...

Being able to truly understand me is a flaw I see in friends/friendships. I guess it's impossible for them to understand me 100%, that would be too much to ask. However, I sometimes feel alienated when I can't fully express myself fearing that they won't understand me.... which leads to the next question...
My flaw in friendships is that I am afraid to express myself completely. I'm afraid that they would judge me and think of me less. >_<
The most important step is to maintain constant communication and to try your best to be positive, not criticizing.

doriee said...
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Puppet said...

What do you think is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships?

I think that everyone has to relize that we are only human. Everyone makes a mistake every once in a
while and I think that only your best friend/friends are the ones that
repetitively forgive you and never stops loving you for who you are. We all have to remember that this is a two way street and in order to gain forgiveness you must also give it. That is what you have to remember in maintaining a lifelong friendships.
By the way I love DSKJewerly!!
:D
just saying!!

KIMB! said...
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coffretgorge said...

I think the biggest flaw in my friendships is the level of maturity, I know some people do mature faster than some but its not really good if someone is stuck in high school thinking that your friends are your slaves or pets. Being friends means you're there for each other, not boss each other around. We all need loyalty in relationships, but there are times when you need to let each other breathe or the relationship won't mature. (i hope i made sense!)

my biggest flaw would have to be my being non-confrontational which leads to being taken for granted. (now you can tell i have issues!)

nice to meet you nonners! :)

KIMB! said...

The biggest flaw I find in my friendships is that they tend to think too much and they would jump to the conclusion which is wild and silly and false. I wish they would just come up to me and talk to me if something is true. I hate it when a friend told me what others had told her about me. I just find it hilarious, but it hurts me.

For example, there is this show called, Glee, a friend asked me why I don't watch this show. I said because I am not into drama and music. I am deaf and I find it pointless to watch the ending when the cast did a musical performance. Most of my friends watch this show. I am into comedy shows like The Office, Modern Family, Community, and etc. However, this friend immediately jumped to the conclusion that I follow my boyfriend because he watches the same shows as I do.

When I found out from other friend, I was angry because she judge me because my boyfriend and I watch same shows so it doesn't mean that I would copy my boyfriend's interests. It's mind-boggling. We just have something in common so why judging me? This friend and I started to drift away because she judged me too much.

I have to say that my flaw is not trying hard enough to keep in touch with my friends. Do I have to text my friends first and ask them if they want to shop or eat with me? Why can't they just say hello first? But I guess it's my flaw for not trying hard to keep in touch with friends. I just wish that friends would simply say hello and how am I doing.

The biggest step in maintaining a lifelong friendship is communication. I met this girl a year ago and we immediately became friends. We talked about everything from sex to little things. It's funny that I met her a year ago and we are very close now. I can trust her because she understands how I feel in some situations. :)

Sorry for a long comment! I like to write long essays :)

l-article said...

Hi Whitney!! I'm An~ It's nice to meet you! I hope we become good blog friends~ :D :D

I think that one of the biggest flaws in my friends now is that there is always that "one" person that we are all friends with that we all dislike. It's pretty mean when I say it like that, but we all complain about how much we don't like how they are but really we care and wish for them to face reality or grow up and change for the better. As for my own flaws, I think I'm afraid of being alone. I love my friends as much as I love spending time alone but being alone isn't very colorful and fun. Seeing friends and loved ones and talking to them about even the smallest things just make me smile. When it comes to lifelong friendships, I think its similar to "unconditional love." Sure you can have good times with friends, but there are also the times where you don't agree on the same things and it ends up bad. True friends would eventually forgive and not judge each other for who they are and accept them as individuals. :]

Lacey said...

The biggest flaw I find with my friends is that they don't know how to keep a secret. I tell them things and then the next day I get people asking me about my secret. Although some of my friends are wonderful and trustworthy, others just aren't so great. However, my biggest flaw is that I say too much. I pour out my soul to people, and trust that they will keep the secrets and be loyal. I'm not a very good judge of trust, and so, in turn, that may be why so many of my friends aren't trustowrthy. I feel that the most important thing about friendship is to truly care for your friends and have their best interests in mind. Because if you don't, then the relationship isn't really a friendship.

Vicky said...

* What is the biggest flaw you find in your current friends/friendships?
* What do you think yours is?
* What do you think is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships?

The biggest flaw I find is that we don't tell each other everything. As friends, I feel like we should be able to say anything, but I find myself having different friends to tell different things to, and not one person to tell everything to. In terms of my biggest flaw, I have a hard time opening up to people. It takes a while for me to be completely comfortable, and sometimes things have to be pried out of me. Of course, telling each other everything is not THE requirement for being friends. Everyone is different and even though I or somebody else may not tell every single little thing about ourselves, the smallest gestures can already suffice. As long as you show concern for each other, and be able to have a good time with each other, I think that's already a start for a friendship for a lifetime.

igorawrx3 said...

What is the biggest flaw you find in your current friends/friendships?
My friends love to smack talk about each other. They love to talk about what the other is wearing and how it doesn't look good. Sometimes they don't but as soon as they do something they don't approve of... talk talk talk.

What do you think yours is?
I get angry very easily. For example, if you give me a very annoying response to something.. I will completely ignore.

What do you think is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships?
Well.. I think you should be able to look pass the flaws. And to be able to tell your honest opinion.

rheenabettes said...

The biggest flaw I have with my friends/friendship is that I don't make any time for them. I've gotten so caught up with college and always hanging out with my cousins that I don't make any time for my friends. I think maintaining lifelong friends involves a lot of trust. I would say communication, but I think you can go periods of time without talking to someone and still know that they are close to you and will be there for you when you need them.

Serena said...

* What is the biggest flaw you find in your current friends/friendships?

My friends are quick to judge. They usually say they aren't judgmental, that they are open to alot of things, but it's pretty obvious that they are making assumptions from the first second. They may not judge you out of the open but you know they're thinking of stuff in their minds to themselves.
Even amongst our group of friends, they judge. They say they understand and all this stuff but I really feel like they don't. It's actually because of this flaw that I became distant from my girl friends. We're mending things now but I can't help but think of how they judgment constantly. I know they talk about other girls when they aren't around so it sometimes makes me wonder what they say about me. I feel like if you're truly friends you would be able to say everything to their face. I'd prefer them to be blunt and honest to my face instead of faking a smile and lying to my face.
[Overly long response. Sorry I got really into it.]


* What do you think yours is?
I think my biggest flaw is that I'm passive and over think stuff. I may be wrong about my girl friends. Maybe they aren't mad at me and I'm just scared to make them mad. I always feel like I'm intruding. My other girl friends tell me I'm not. I shouldn't wait for invites, sometimes it's good to be aggressive and invite yourself. This doesn't mean crashing parties but like group events where they tell you once or twice to go but don't involve you in car rides. I automatically assume I'm not invited but there were a few times where they asked me why I didn't go.
YEP! See I can't stop talking because I keep thinking and my mind is racing. =p


* What do you think is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships?
Being open and understanding that you may lose touch with friends. The world is changing and the world does not revolve around you. My friends have their own lives and that things may be going on in their personal lives. I may be the type to tell them about everything and anything that is going on in my life but they might like to keep things personal. It's best to be understanding and willing to accept change. The only thing you can really do is just wish them a best. As a true friend, you would only wish the best upon them. =] I'd never want them to be hurting. If ending our friendship will get them further in life, than I think they should go for it. I would never want to drag my friends down.



I really enjoyed answering these questions Nonners! It actually relates to things going on in my life now. I'm trying to understand that everything is changing in the world around us. I can only hope that my true friends will come back around. I'll always be here waiting. I've always been here. I never close doors on friends. [Well other than those who HELLA screwed me over.] But as of yet I haven't turned any one down. People change and they should anyways been given another chance.


<3s Serena.

Mindy J. L. said...

The biggest flaw I find in my current friends are actual activities! Technology has really taken over. Most of my friends rather spend hours chatting online and texting then going out and just hang out!

My biggest flaw? Well I'd probably say the same thing goes for me. I admit I really do use texting and Facebook to communicate with my friends more than hanging out with them...

I think a biggest step towards maintaining a lifelong friendship is to just go all out let your friend knows you care about them, think about them, and misses them. Even if you're hundreds of miles away. Spend a few minutes to send them a text saying you miss them, or post a comment on their Facebook wall, chatting with them in AIM, or just old fashion calling them up just to say hi. I know these are some of the things I wish I would of done... I miss some of my friends immensely now. =/

CocoBella said...

I think the biggest flaw that I've found in some of my current friends/friendships is the lack of listening. I have some friends that just wait their turn to talk and don't really listen to what your saying.

I think my biggest flaw is that I put my boyfriend before my girlfriends. Sometimes I would rather spend time with my boyfriend instead of going out with my girls.

I think the most important step in maintaining lifelong friendships is not too judge. I have one great best friend that I've know forever and I think we have a successful friendship because we let each other be who we are.

Thanks for doing a giveaway!

CATHLEEN said...

Hey Nonners!

the biggest flaw in my friendship is probably not that much contact,since each of us goes to different universities, and with the workload it's difficult to find time to meet up.

My biggest flaw is probably trust. since i had a childhood friend that constantly lie to me. so now i find it hard to trust new people.

contact is the most important thing in maintaining lifelong friendship. i have a friend since i was 5 and we still keep in contact and go out during uni holidays (btw i'm 18 now)

White-Zantedeschia said...

Hi Whitney,
Guess I gotta try...Seriously, I am one of those people who don't win or get selected at all even in the simple lottery games. Oofff... but I will try till the end :).
So here goes the dun-dun-dun responses.
Q1: I think time to sit down for few minutes all together.
Q2: I am too demanding and can be very straightforward.
Q3: Appreciating each other for who they are.

Helen said...

What is the biggest flaw you find in your current friends/friendships?
-The biggest flaw that I see in my friendships is that we don't see each other as often as before when we all had time to hang out :( I don't know if it's just me or not but I feel many of my friends drifting away from me and vice versa, though I have made a few new ones.

What do you think yours is?
-I think my biggest flaw is probably my pride. I'm not really a snob or something like that but I keep to myself at times and usually I don't like to initiate conversations with people I don't know very well-I guess you could say I'm shy >_< but others sometimes take offense when I can't think of something to say and they think I'm being stuck up. I should really work on being more social and making small-talk!

What do you think is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships?
-Well I'm not sure which friends I will keep for life at the moment but there are a few that I haven't seen in years but we still keep in touch and have long phone conversations :] I'd have to say that to maintain a friendship for a long time you have to make an effort to keep in touch and respect that your friends may have changed, as you probably will too.

evie said...

hmm the biggest flaw i find in my friends is that they are too reliant on each other. somethings in my point of view should be done by yourself and not by your friends.
mine is that i'm a lil impatient and sometimes i will get frustrated over small things.
we should be mindful of each other likes/dislike and personality and treat others as how you want them to treat them and listen to what advice that people tell you that is useful to you even though you might not think that it is (as it usually is useful)

Adriana said...

The biggest flaw in my friendship is we don't see each other as much as we hope to. My flaw is i wish i can help them out more with any problems but i just don't know how to do that.the most important thing to keep a friendship alive is to make sure you don't keep secrets.

petitechouxx said...

What is the biggest flaw you find in your current friends/friendships? The biggest flaw is that we have no time to see each other. We were good friends and always go outside together to do activities and many stuff, and now, we are in college or university. We are separated and busy to do homework and job. Communication is become less present. It's hard to choose which day to see each other. Not everyone has some free time. It kinda makes me sad. They made new friends and spend a lot of time with them than me.

What do you think yours is? I need to communicate. I am the shy and timid person in the group. I am like a ghost or invisible person. Friends forget that i was here.

What do you think is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships? Communication. Everyone has to speak and talk about anything, This makes a good conversation and good relationship.

Jasmine said...

Hi! I've been referred here by Steph! What an interesting topic...


Biggest flaws in friends...Sometimes they take you for granted and they keep asking for favors like it's nothing, and it's really hard to say no.

My biggest flaw is probably that I'm too nice and forgiving...I almost can never say no to anything and I can really spread myself too thin sometimes.

Communication is always the most important thing in a friendship and keeping it thriving. And it's something dynamic that everyone is always working on improving!

Amanda said...

The biggest flaw I perceive in my friends is the way in which they think the world revolves around them. This self-centeredness makes me want to push away from them at times. They only call or text when they want something from you or need your help to do something. It flat out sucks somtimes, knowing you're being used. I think I can be responsible for doing this sometimes and that's why I try as hard as I can to put myself in someone else's shoes when I want to do things. Sometimes it's just easier to do things for yourself, on your own time-frame however you want to do it. Maintaining friendships is hard but it can be done. The little things like checking in with each other from time to time to make sure everything's going okay lighten up my day. Little notes, texts, emails, etc. make me smile because it's knowing someone else is going out of their way to think of you. With technology in this day and age, writing letters are long gone but I have a secret stash of super cutesy Japanese stationary to write letters to my friends to keep in touch. I know they might be too busy to write me back but I know that I made the effort to reach out to them and that's what matters to my heart. :)

shannanshotgunxx said...

The biggest flaw that i find is that sometimes they say things and know it bugs me, but they say it anyway.
My biggest flaw is probably that i don't talk about a lot of stuff in my personal life and i try not to let people get to close, because I'm afraid they'll just leave me.
And probably the most important step to maintaining a lifelong friendship is to say when something bothers you, don't worry about those people staring at you across the room and laugh about whatever you want. The most important step is to enjoy being with that person and to enjoy the simple things that they do.

saints said...

i wouldnt say there are flaws in my friends(no one is perfect..not even me..they are our friends because they can accept us for who we are..n so we should do the same)..but there is one thing which i've done which i see it as the biggest flaw..which is after being friends for so long..close friends and then realizing that i've fallen in love with a best friend..and its crazy cause i cant do anything about it..as fear of losing my one and only best friend..n furthermore that person is already involve..so i guess the secret for a long lasting friendship is compromising each other..accepting each other for who they really are..and the main thing..try not to fall in love with them..

hazell said...

What is the biggest flaw you find in your current friends/friendships?

My current friends (which are my university classmates) are the ones that I fit in most with. Despite that, I think the biggest flaw is that they like to plan outings and trips that are sometimes too expensive for those who are not as blessed as them financially. They would plan for overseas trips or trips to another state which costs quite a bit. The lot of them will be able to go because they get more allowance thus more savings and if they need extra, they can just ask from their parents. In a way, they can be a bit inconsiderate but I can't blame them for that. It's not fair to blame them for that.

What do you think yours is?

Mine would be that I am tactless. I can say things that can really hurt others without even realising it unless someone else tells me that I am being tactless. I am fixing it cause sometimes tactlessness comes off as being a cold-hearted and arrogant person. Which I am not and I try to think before I say anything as this flaw of mine made me quite disliked in my high school so I was pretty much an outcast.

What do you think is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships?

Honesty and understanding is the most important step towards maintaining lifelong friendships. You need to be honest to people about how you feel and your thoughts towards things they do to be able to understand each other. It's just like being in a relationship. You need to understand someone and be honest with them so that you don't end up backstabbing them or coming off as a hypocrite because no one likes backstabbers and hypocrites. With honesty and understanding, you can truly be a friend to someone and be truly cherish them and be there when they need you.

susan. said...

The biggest flaw I find in my current friends/friendships is that they are not decisive at all! I can never count on them to make plans/make up their minds about what to do next. They would literally stand in the middle of a street for 30 mins deciding on what to do and end up just going home.
My biggest flaw is my temper. I try to keep my cool at the most part, but when I get the chance, I would vent like no tomorrow. I am also really bad at handling stress.
The most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships is to accept your friends for what they are. Everyone is flawed in one way or another, but if we can look pass it and accept, we'll all be one happy family.

Gjee said...

From my perspective, the biggest flaw I find in my friendships is that we take each other for granted. A lot of my friends have already graduated from college while I'm preparing for Medical school so we're all in different places in our lives. Some are ready to venture in to the real world, some are unsure of their future, and some (ME) still need quite a bit of school before we get anywhere in our lives SO oftentimes it seems as if we forget about each other.

Of course when one of us is in some sort of a crises or needs a shoulder to lean on, we're there for each other. Its just that the rest of the time, we're just doing our own thing and forget about one another.

My biggest flaw is my inability to let others in to my life. After getting my heart broken from friends, family, and past loves, I just don't have the desire to really talk about my life. So whenever I'm out with friends, I would always divert the subject whenever someone asks me a question pertaining to JUST me. Even if its just a simple question, like what schools I would be applying to and what not, I just lose all interest in the conversation and immediately bring up something completely pointless.

But my friends get me. They all know that I keep to my self about a lot of things so they know I'll come to them when I need them.

The most important step that is necessary to maintain lifelong friendships for me is the courage to be brutally honest. Honesty is the best policy, after all, lol. But in all seriousness, when it comes to emotional situations, very few people will tell you how they really feel about your problems. Pretty much everyone tells you its not your fault, how they think you did the right thing, etc etc but only your true friends will tell you how it really is. They're the ones who truly care. Why would your true friends lie to you just to make you feel better? Your true friends are the ones who care enough to tell you the truth, even if it means it will cause you temporary pain. At least then, you'll have a better idea of the situation and can think clearly on how to fix it.

I don't blame people who tell white lies to make their friends feel better because it does require an extreme level of trust and comfort to actually be able to be brutally honest. But when you're trying to achieve and maintain a lifelong friend, sometimes the other person needs a wakeup call. Its so easy to get wrapped up in your life, especially if your friend lives hundreds of miles away. So we all need to have that one (at least one!) person in our lives that will give us a wakeup call and force us back in to reality.

Without sincere honesty, I don't think its possible to have a lifelong friendship. A shallow friendship, sure, but not a true lifelong friendship. And communication, of course. =)

And gosh you and Tae are so cute! lol I remember when Steph blogged about you a long time ago! You had DSK jewelry hanging from your tank top!! Do you remember that? Pretty clever marketing, haha!

Gjee said...

From my perspective, the biggest flaw I find in my friendships is that we take each other for granted. A lot of my friends have already graduated from college while I'm preparing for Medical school so we're all in different places in our lives. Some are ready to venture in to the real world, some are unsure of their future, and some (ME) still need quite a bit of school before we get anywhere in our lives SO oftentimes it seems as if we forget about each other.

Of course when one of us is in some sort of a crises or needs a shoulder to lean on, we're there for each other. Its just that the rest of the time, we're just doing our own thing and forget about one another.

My biggest flaw is my inability to let others in to my life. After getting my heart broken from friends, family, and past loves, I just don't have the desire to really talk about my life. So whenever I'm out with friends, I would always divert the subject whenever someone asks me a question pertaining to JUST me. Even if its just a simple question, like what schools I would be applying to and what not, I just lose all interest in the conversation and immediately bring up something completely pointless.

But my friends get me. They all know that I keep to my self about a lot of things so they know I'll come to them when I need them.

The most important step that is necessary to maintain lifelong friendships for me is the courage to be brutally honest. Honesty is the best policy, after all, lol. But in all seriousness, when it comes to emotional situations, very few people will tell you how they really feel about your problems. Pretty much everyone tells you its not your fault, how they think you did the right thing, etc etc but only your true friends will tell you how it really is. They're the ones who truly care. Why would your true friends lie to you just to make you feel better? Your true friends are the ones who care enough to tell you the truth, even if it means it will cause you temporary pain. At least then, you'll have a better idea of the situation and can think clearly on how to fix it.

I don't blame people who tell white lies to make their friends feel better because it does require an extreme level of trust and comfort to actually be able to be brutally honest. But when you're trying to achieve and maintain a lifelong friend, sometimes the other person needs a wakeup call. Its so easy to get wrapped up in your life, especially if your friend lives hundreds of miles away. So we all need to have that one (at least one!) person in our lives that will give us a wakeup call and force us back in to reality.

Without sincere honesty, I don't think its possible to have a lifelong friendship. A shallow friendship, sure, but not a true lifelong friendship. And communication, of course. =)

And gosh you and Tae are so cute! lol I remember when Steph blogged about you a long time ago! You had DSK jewelry hanging from your tank top!! Do you remember that? Pretty clever marketing, haha!

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Suechu said...

What is the biggest flaw you find in your current friends/friendships?

Honestly, my current relationships are good but I’ve had so many one-sided friendships in the past. I feel like I’ve encountered different type of empty friendships too: friends who keep you on the back burner, friends who are your BFF in front of you but gossips about you behind your back, super competitive friends who use you for academics, etc. I’ve just honestly never felt any love in those friendships now that I look back on them and it really saddens me…But I think I’ve really learned from them and now I have good, reliable friends that I can go shopping with, studying with, watch movies with, eat fun dinners with, talk about boy problems with (haha), etc. So in the end, it’s all good!

What do you think yours is?

Oh boy…I am just always worried about the negative relationships I have with friends and family that I don’t focus enough on the friendships that ARE good and DO matter! I’ve also learned that I need to MAKE time to hang out with friends. As a full time student majoring in science that takes 19 units a quarter, works 15 hours a week, volunteers 6 hours a week, and holds two leadership positions, I feel like I barely have time to even SLEEP! I’ve caught myself (so many times) saying, “Ahhhhh, sorry dear!! I don’t have time! *sad or stressed out face*” to friends when they want to go to dinner or catch a movie. I just felt that I couldn’t do it but I’ve learned I CAN. You just need to make the effort to spend time with them and I am working on it!

What do you think is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships?

Everyone is going to have a different step to maintaining friendships, but for me I feel that if you surround yourself with people who truly care about you, it’s going to last. It will. Personally, I find it pretty easy to love a person and care about them so my issue was worrying about people who DIDN’T care way too much…And let’s be honest, “it takes two to tango,” and it’s not fun going solo in these one-sided friendships. Through my relationships with not only friends but also family, I’ve learned that I should only care about the people who sincerely love me and stop focusing on the haters. Those people who care are the ones that matter because that’s real love right there—that is, those who are nice to you because they are sincerely concerned for you, your well-being, and your happiness. Those are the friendships that last.

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mintylovee said...

D: I like coming home after weeks of high school to a giveaway. xD but thankies to both you and Steph.(:

With my friendships, I think our biggest flaw is that we aren't very open with each other. I've known a lot of my friends since 6th grade, and I'm in 9th now; we aren't very open with each other. I want to tell them everything on my mind but am afraid of being judged. My flaw is that I don't speak what I want to say. There's always petty drama and I just want to scream, "GET OVER IT!" But I'm afraid everything will crumble from that. I think having your ups and downs is the most important step towards maintaining your lifelong friendships. You actually have to know each other's weaknesses and strengths to maintain a friendship. You have to fight and fuss and then make-up to build that indestructible friendship, but I haven't done that- yet.
I can go on and on, but I should get to my homework. O.O

thankies again!! <3

amuse-bouche said...

The biggest flaw I find in my current friendships is probably insecurity. Girls oftentimes are insecure about their relationships so when things happen like they get defriended on facebook, we start to think, what dogs i do to make that happen, instead of asking the person why they did it. My biggest flaw in relationships is probably not trying hard enough to maintain them. I am so busy at my job and being a full time mom that I forget to engage and nurture my relationships sometimes.  I definitely think making time for each other is the most important step towards maintaining your relationships.

 

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